I have had so many people tell me that they have a hard time making friends as an adult. I also find this difficult because most women have their tribe and getting in can be hard if you feel like an outsider.
I have never had a bunch of friends, but the ones I have are close. I know that if I need something I can ask and they will be there to help me with whatever I need.
I am on a mission to make more lasting and meaningful friendships. Here are the ways I have found to be the best way to meet new friends.
Finding a CrossFit or yoga class can help solve this problem. I did CrossFit for a couple years and met some amazing people. The environment is definitely conducive for making friends and getting your sweat on at the same time. Yoga is not as partner-oriented but I have found people are so nice at yoga classes that it can be easy to start a conversation and move that to the juice bar or lunch.
I love this quote and it is so true!
The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others
– Mahatma Gandhi
Volunteering is a great way to make friends. Many cities have groups you can join that provide volunteer services to non-profit organizations. My recommendation is to Google or look on Facebook for local volunteer organizations. You could even see if your employer offers a volunteer program. In addition to making friends, volunteering allows me to give back and that really helps my mental health.
Mom groups are everywhere. My son is fifteen, but when he was younger, moms would come early to hang out and wait for their kids to get out of school. If you work full time, take some time off and start up a conversation with some of the moms. This will help you schedule play dates and allow you an opening to make friends. The hard part of this scenario is striking up the conversation. You can also see if there are online mom groups for your city. I have one in my town and there are moms that actively say they want to make more friends and then plan play dates with their kids.
Start a Hobby
My hobby is photography. My local camera shop offers photography classes that allow a group to go to a location and learn new photography skills. Since this is a group outing there is an opportunity to meet new people and possibly schedule another outing with a few members. This is a chance to meet new people that you can contact in the future for advice about your hobby.
This is something I have not tried but I have heard positive feedback. Bumble is an app for dating but the company also has a side for just meeting friends. I built a profile and you swipe to see different profiles of other women that have you have something in common with. It seems promising if you are willing to meet strangers for lunch or drinks. Another app is, Meetup, where events are listed and you can opt-in to meet up with the group if you see something that interests you.
I recently joined a volunteer group that looks so inviting and can’t wait to meet new people and possibly forms some lasting friendships. I will follow-up in another post and let you know if I am having success.
I would love to hear from you.
Let me know if you have other ideas for making friends as adults.